My name is Jecinta Mwaluke, a teacher based in Arusha. What happened to me in June 2017 nearly pushed me to the edge. I’m sharing my story so that other women—especially those dealing with mpango wa kando (mistresses)—can learn something from my experience.
I got married in 2007 in a church wedding. My husband was working as an accountant at a government office in Dar es Salaam, and I joined him after our marriage. Life started well. Though I was unemployed at the time, he provided for us, and we were blessed with three chilSpiritual Healeren between 2008 and 2014. To read full story, link at the title
In 2015, I secured a teaching job in Arusha under the government. This meant relocating while my husband remained in Dar. We agreed that he would visit over weekends, and at first, he did—every end of the month without fail.
But in 2016, he was transferred to Mtwara, and things began to change. The distance made visits less frequent. He went from visiting monthly to not coming for three straight months. The last time he came, he seemed different. He had locked his phone—something he had never done before. When I asked, he snapped, “Why are you monitoring me? Can’t you just be happy I came to see you?”
That weekend, he left me with TSh 10,000 only—far less than usual. I knew something wasn’t right.
The following month, he never came. I called and asked what was going on, and he just said, “Work has kept me busy.” I waited a few weeks, but my gut told me to travel to Mtwara and find out for myself.
I didn’t tell him I was coming.
I arrived around 10pm. I knew his house from when I had helped him move in. Before knocking, I heard voices from inside. A woman was laughing, and then I heard moaning and my husband’s voice saying things I cannot forget.
I felt sick.
I knocked. No answer. I banged on the door and shouted, “Joseph! Is this how you treat your wife?!”
He eventually opened the door. Inside, there was a light-skinned woman in a towel. My heart broke. When I confronted him, he yelled, “Who told you to come here?! Go back to Arusha and don’t return!”…. Continue reading.
